“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” ~Tom Robbins
Do you know how couples in a marriage relationships start taking each other for granted? Over time, it becomes easier to focus on your spouses negative traits and stop appreciating the positive things about them. Eventually, this can damage your relationship. Read on to discover 10 powerful tips that will keep you from taking your spouse for granted.
Have you ever taken your spouse for granted? If you were honest, then you probably answered “yes” to this question. If you answered “no”, then most likely you are a newlywed. Most of us do take our spouses for granted at some time or another.
Here are 10 things you can do to avoid taking your spouse for granted:
1. Remember romance
Essentially romance is expressing our appreciation for our mate and letting them know how special they are. You could have a solid marriage without romance. However, romance is to a relationship what a great dessert is to a meal. You can have one without the other, but it turns an ordinary experience into an extraordinary one.
2. Express your appreciation daily
Try to remember to tell you spouse at least one thing that you appreciate about them every day.
3. Mind your manners
We tend to be more polite to strangers than to our own family. Things like rudeness, loud belching, and passing gas are signs that you are not being thoughtful to your mate.
4. Write a thank you note
Write a thank you note to your spouse for something that they do for you. It can be something as basic as taking out the trash or doing the laundry.
5. Remember hygiene
Sometimes it is easy to let yourself “go” when you are at home. You do not have to look like Ward and June Cleaver while doing chores, but at least practice basic hygiene.
6. Love calls
Call your partner just to tell them that you are thinking about them and love them.
7. Make a top ten list
Make a top ten list of things that you love about your spouse.
8. What would you miss if they were gone
When you start to get frustrated with your mate about those little annoying habits they have, think about what you would miss if they died.
9. Give gifts
Find little gifts to let your partner know that you are thinking about them. It does not have to be anything extravagant or expensive. It can be something as simple as a card or his/her favorite candy bar.
Get out photos of your early years together. It is a good way to remember what attracted you to your spouse in the first place. Over the years, it becomes easy to forget about all those wonderful qualities that your mate has. Instead you take it for granted.